Tips for Slowing Down Your Relationship Without Breaking Up
You may have felt quite excited as you start such new romance and it felt addictive. You would have a great chemistry and the bells and whistles go off and then you would end up finding yourself that you want to spend all your free time together. But, something occurs. Probably, the initial fireworks have gone down to make you like to step back. Or probably, your girl is starting to get more serious than what you intended. You surely would like to slow down in the relationship but you are not also interested about losing her. What should be done?
The first thing to do is that you should think it over and you need to be honest with yourself. You must ask yourself why if your interest in her has waned but you are still hang in there. Is it to avoid making her feel bad? Or is it due to the reason that she is actually a great girl though you are not feeling quite right? Or perhaps, you enjoy the physical chemistry though you aren’t really clicking intellectually or emotionally? If the answer to the questions is a yes, then you have to man up and you should be doing the right thing. You need to have such honest conversation with her and go about ending the relationship when you need to do. As much as you may like to hang in there and see where things would go, it is really unfair to ask her to waste her time in such relationship if you already suspect that such will go to a dead end.
But, when your interest in her has not faded, but you just want to have a breather, then you may get on a more solid ground or avoid damaging that excellent relationship through moving really fast. You are surely taking such more mature approach which is more likely to save the relationship than end this. There are so many promising relationships that have ended because the parties got physically or emotionally involved pretty quickly and their passion burns out before they are able to build something solid or sustainable.
It is very important that you actually talk it out. It is quite important to be clear to be able to avoid the misunderstandings. You need to be sure that you like her and that you also value the relationship and you do not want to see other people. You just feel uncomfortable with the current pace of the relationship and you wish to take things much more slowly. If your partner is able to understand agrees to this, then it is really great. If not, then you should be meeting halfway with your partner.